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In 2008, when I went through the breakup that should have never happened because it never should have been a relationship, I was given a fantastic nugget of wisdom from my first-ever mentor, Sarah.
Now is the time to figure out who you are. Now is the time to figure out what you need from a relationship, as well as what you have to offer in one. You’ve got the rest of your life to spend with someone, but you’ll never find the right person to spend it with (or they’ll never find you) if you don’t know what you need and if you can’t identify what you have to offer when it comes to love.
Sarah’s brilliance was subtle, as it’s taken me quite some time to identify what I need vs. what I want vs. what I have to offer. But I think I’m getting close. Obviously with each crapshoot of a relationship we’re in, we identify things that we don’t want for our future relationships. We identify mistakes we made, bad judgement calls, and circumstances we’d like to avoid in the future.
What do you need? What do you have to offer? How is what you need different from what you want?