January 6, 2010

Reflecting on Chicago (so far): Unfiltered.

Nice to see you again. Follow me, @SydneyOwen. Thanks for being here!

Yesterday, much to my surprise, Elisa, author of Ophelia’s Webb, posted a little diddy about me and my blog as part of her #BlogCrush series. You can read the post here.

I read it, tweeted about it with some awesomesauce and CAPS LOCK about how compliments are SOOOO expensive and then I took a minute to click on every single link that was included in the post. There were a lot. I took a little trip down memory lane and it was really fun to read.

Things have changed here a lot since I relaunched in October. Formerly Sydney Owen on: New Media, Sydney: Unfiltered is a bit more natural for me to write. I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again, I kinda wanted to take a step back from the “I’m-an-expert-on-SM-and-PR-even-though-I-haven’t-graduated-yet” because one, I’m most definitely not an expert (an afficionado, yes, but not an expert) and two, I wanted to be able to tackle more personal topics as well.  I think it’s working. Kinda.

I wanted to take some time to pause on the dating posts and reflect on the posts that I wrote that were forecasting what my life would be like in Chicago. This one, “I’m Chicago Bound”, touches on what everyone in Tampa said about Chicago when I announced that I was moving after finals this summer.

So, on with the reflection.

“You’ll be back. Chicago is too cold.” I’d like to state for the record that it’s cold here, yes. But, Chicagoans, it’s not nearly as bad as I had anticipated it being (yet). I know there’s more to come. But I’m acclimating juuuust fine. (Thanks to a bombass coat from mom and dad and a scarf/glove set from the sister…. otherwise, I’d be here with my “Florida Winter” coat, aka, a Mountain Hardwear fleece. That definitely wouldn’t cut it.)

“Chicago is too expensive.” Kinda right on that one, if you’re blind. Yes, there are places that cost a pretty penny. But there are also places that don’t. I happen to know ALL ABOUT the ones that don’t. You can survive here. It’s possible. Is it more expensive than Florida? Of course it is, do you KNOW what kind of taxes they have here? High ones. But is it doable? Abso-freaking-lutely.

In this post, which reflects on how the new and shiny has worn off of the initial decision to move to Chicago (written in April), I set up a couple different scenarios for how I thought things were going to go down before/during/after my internship.

Here, for your perusal, are the scenarios I outlined:

Perfect Scenario:
I move to Chicago with all of my furniture and find a fabulous apartment in a great neighborhood and I magically sell my car that I’m upside down in. I work like a madman, taking in as much as humanly possible, learning everything from everyone, and after the eight weeks that are required before you’re eligible for a full-time position, one is created by the PR Gods above and I’m working with people that are brilliant in a department that utilizes my talents. I make enough money to keep the apartment I picked out, and I don’t have to use my credit cards that I just paid off. I know that I’ll be in this position for awhile, so I go ahead and take all of the necessary steps to become a citizen of the state of Illinois. Oh, and my blood isn’t too thin from living in Florida sunshine for four years.

Sunshine and roses. And unicorns. And I still don’t have an Illinois drivers license. I can’t part with my Florida one.

Almost Perfect Scenario:
I move to Chicago like mentioned above, but maybe my perfect apartment isn’t available anymore, so I find something almost as fabulous (no biggie). I still work like crazy, but maybe the PR Gods want me to experience the whole 16-weeks of intern-dom and theeeen there’s a position open for me to pursue. I do, and I get that dream position and I start my career with a bang. It’s a little chilly, but I’ll get a jacket and be fine. (My dad would tell me to suck it up.)

Pretty darn close. And FTR, Dad has never told me to suck it up. He tells me I’m crazy for moving to a place with sub-zero temperatures.

Probable Scenario:
I move to Chicago with everything I can fit in my car, but leave my stuff at home for the time being. I have a colleague who said I can store my stuff at her house, so I do that, at least until I know what is going on with my life after the program. Sixteen weeks fly by, and I’m gaining a ton of knowledge and offering some of my insights as well. After the 16 weeks, I’m offered a full-time position which I graciously accept. I ship my stuff up to myself, figure out what will fit in my apartment and go from there. Watch out windy city – I’m ready!

Pretty darn close, minus the keeping my stuff from my house in Florida and shipping it up here.

Borderline Nightmare (but okay in the end) Scenario:
I get an apartment that’s alright. I can live with alright. The internship goes well, but due to the “economic stress” (which I think is total, complete BS by the way), there are no positions available at this firm. Another agency has another intern program I can go through while I figure it out. Or maybe the internship goes as well as it does in the other scenarios but maybe the weather really kills me.

Spot on about the apartment. Not so much about the job. Or the weather.

Nightmare situation:
My mediocre apartment is great for a week, until I realize there is a serious ____ infestation. And I can’t get a hold of my landlord. And the hot water goes out. And I still can’t get a hold of the landlord. So now I’m infested and freezing in the shower. The internship is awesome, but I learn that I hate agency PR, the whole reason I moved to Chicago. There aren’t any jobs – like, I can’t even wait tables while I wait for an opportunity in PR. Then I get evicted, not because I can’t pay, but because my building is being rezoned into a playground. Or a jail. And then a meteor strikes the Lake and there is a great flood and it doesn’t matter because I’m drowning.

This one makes me giggle.

So which one happened? Pretty much the “perfect” scenario, with a bit of “probable” and “borderline nightmare” sprinkled on top. Here’s how it actually went down:

The REAL Scenario:
I move to Chicago with everything I can fit in my car, and sell the rest. Everything. All of it. I get an apartment that’s alright. The windows are permanently icy in the winter (so far) but it’s cute because I pretend I’m in an igloo. I become one with my igloo-residing-ancestors. Wait. I don’t have any of those. Anyway… I work like a madman, taking in as much as humanly possible, learning everything from everyone, and after the eight weeks that are required before you’re eligible for a full-time position, one is offered to me which I graciously accept. I go home for graduation, come back and I’m working with people that are brilliant in a department that utilizes my talents, and I’m learning A TON, EVERY SINGLE FREAKING DAY. And I love my job. I make enough money to keep the apartment I picked out, and though my lifestyle may not be fancy, I’m living. So that’s good. Oh, and I LOVE MY JOB. And I make some kickass friends. And the weather doesn’t scare me off (yet).

Take some time to read some of your old blog posts. If you’ve had a life-changing moment, week, month, year – read some of the posts before you even knew that your life could change. Then read some directly after you found out.

Did you do it?

Now, how has your writing style changed? How has your life changed? How have YOU changed, as a person, a professional, a friend?

  • Awesome that you are able to look back and reflect on your thought processes and then weigh them against the reality of what occurred. . So much fun.

    Since I started writing, many people have influenced my work (you of course changed the way I saw SM) and in doing so, had an impact on the direction of my life. I'm very, very grateful :)
  • This is Life Happening:)

    There's never more fuel for that voice we're all searching for than during times of change. We're creatures of habit at our core, but fortunate the world's not ours to decide. The world does it's thing, and we're here for the ride. All those forces usually culminate into periods of rapid change; life can be very hurry up and wait. Those periods, for anyone who has the scones to try and express that crazy mixed up world from their finger tips, well, those periods are the ones that melt down the barriers between every writer and their truer voice. The one an audience reads and can immediately attribute to its owner.

    Your blog this year's been testament to that:)
  • It's really exciting to look back and see where you've come from. We're so "in it" that sometimes it's hard to step back and be objective. I love Elisa's #BlogCrush series and it totally makes me gush each time (whether it's me or anyone else I love) hehe

    Congrats on everything! WEEEE
  • Also, MAJOR kudos for being honest enough to write "I kinda wanted to take a step back from the “I’m-an-expert-on-SM-and-PR-even-though-I-haven’t-graduated-yet” because ... I’m most definitely not an expert (an afficionado, yes, but not an expert)."

    I wish more folks had the clarity of mind to admit that.

    Also, "afficionado" should only have one "f."

    Hee!
  • Chicago is WAY cheaper than Florida as long as you venture out of tourist approved areas (and congratulations on making it out to the wilds of Wicker Park last week!).

    Reading old blog posts is always a blast. My style hasn't changed all that much -- I've basically been writing blog-ish content online since 1995 -- but my amount of self-exposure has certainly diminished. I'm still wholly transparent in everything I write, but there are a few nuggets I used to put out there I now kind of keep to myself.
  • Haha, the wilds of Wicker Park! The Chicagoans that crack me up are the ones who clearly moved here from elsewhere, live/work in The Loop, and are astonished that a world exists north of Fullerton!
  • Hey Girl! I, for one, am a HUGE fan of the new Sydney.Unfiltered (and your Chicago move). It's been so much fun to feel like we're all on the journey with you - your writing is sweet, funny, exciting and passionate and I love that about you! Can't wait until we can finally hang out IRL.

    Until then, I LOVE YOUR FACE!!!
  • I like your topic switch from social media to personal. I think it's important that to continue to keep posting on a regular basis, you have to have a lot of things to write about and you gotta love what you write about. Personal topics are much more fun; more drama! :)

    I agree it's fun to read old blog posts. One of the reasons I started blogging was because I loved scrapbooking and journaling, but putting my pictures and adventures online was not only easier to do, but to share with others.

    Cheers!
  • Wow, funny you ask that question right now. I am in the middle, absolute MIDDLE, of packing up all of my stuff and prepping to move to Colorado ON SATURDAY. THAT'S THREE DAYS. I am in the middle of happy dances and freaking out, huge wins and major setbacks... I can't wait to click back in May or June of this year and see how far I'll have come since rightthissecond. And my writing style? Has so changed. I stopped telling the masses what I did every day and instead started talking about what I got out of my every days. That changed everything, including how I approach situations as I'm in them. Great stuff, ladygirl. Can't wait for more :)
  • ladygirl? I'm kinda digging that. I'm always looking for the best way to refer to my female friends. Is is girl? (but what if they are 30, or are you always a girl). woman? (sounds too condescending as in "Hey woman"), lady (too old sounding), chica (can't put my finger on it, but something's up with this one too), babe (too familiar).

    and then what if this a girl I'm dating? I don't want to refer to her the same way I refer to my female friends.

    I guess I could just call everyone by their name :)

    ooh, what about using a nickname?

    Sorry for the nonsense, but i cannot figure this one out.
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