December 31, 2009

Sharing the Love: Unfiltered.

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I was contemplating writing an end of the year post, as many of us are doing, when I stumbled upon this on David and Derek’s blogs today. I’ll reflect on 2009 soon enough, but this definitely takes priority.

My name is Brandy. And I have a blog.

And a plea.

I use my blog to showcase the crazy I meet everyday, share the stories of the kids I teach and document my love for tequila, dairy products and the abdominal muscles of Ryan Reynolds. Rarely do I talk about personal issues on my blog- as personal as the dude that I adore (who I actually met through my blog- single ladies, let that be a very good reason to blog, the possibility of meeting someone as wonderful as my man), but I need your help. And it involves my dude.

He’s a guy who made math comics for my class, so they would love learning about addition. He’s the kinda guy who sends my friends gift cards when they are having hard times, who remembers every story I ever told him, who was the first person I celebrated with when I got a teaching job. He’s the guy who sent flowers to me at school- dozens of my favourite pink roses just because he loves me. He’s a guy who has spent a year patiently explaining (and re-explaining) everything there is to know about football during the important games when silence is preferred. He’s made me word puzzles and comics and stayed up late playing Scrabble with me (even though I beat him almost every time). He’s listened to me cry about school and family and jobs. He is everything I never knew I needed and everything I always knew I wanted.

The holidays have hit us hard. He’s recently been told he may have something called multiple myeloma- an incurable cancer, that gives a person an average of five years of continued life. Though this news has came as a shock, he continues to be exactly who has always been- spending his time worrying about me, rather than worrying about himself. He’s the most selfless individual I know- (he stayed late on Christmas Eve to work, so his co-workers could leave early) and a post like this would never be something that he would promote or encourage but when I’m overwhelmed and feeling helpless, the blogging community has always given me tremendous support and comfort, two things I desperately need at this time.

As I write this, the future is uncertain and we aren’t sure what’s happening. He’ll need to see an oncologist soon, to verify what’s going on in his body. My hope is that everyone who reads this think positive thoughts and if you are a person who prays, could you add him to your list? (You can refer to him as ‘brandy’s hot awesome dude’). If you don’t pray, please keep him in your heart.This cancer is only a possibility and I believe that the prayers and positive thoughts of people can make sure it never becomes a reality.

I want to give a big thank you to the blog owner who scraped their original blog plans and graciously put this up. My goal is to get as many people as possible to see and read this post. If you are reading this and want to help, copy and paste my plea into your blog or send a link through twitter, so more people can keep him in their thoughts. I would be so very grateful (even more grateful than I am to my friend who first showed me the picture of Ryan Reynolds on the cover of Entertainment Weekly. If you haven’t seen it, google it. You. Are. Welcome).

I realize this all sounds dramatic, a Lifetime movie in the making- but this is life. Right now. And I’m throwing away any hint of ego and am humbly asking for you to pray or think kind thoughts. If you are able to pass this on, thank you and if you know anything regarding MM- please email me (my email is on my blog). This isn’t a call for sympathy or a plea for pity. It’s just one girl hoping you can think positive thoughts for the person she adores. If my current heartache provides you with anything, let it be with the reminder that life is short, love is unbending and no one knows what could happen next. Maybe it is silly, but I really do believe that positive thoughts can make a huge difference. Thank you for reading this and if you haven’t already? Please tell someone you love them today.

I did.

Why is this important? One, because it just goes to show how important our networks are to us, both offline and online. Brandy said she’s had over 100 emails, some 5,000 site visits and the love and support keeps pouring in.

Two, damn near everyone is touched by cancer in some way or another. This strikes home with me because my senior year of high school, my mom was diagnosed with oral cancer and we didn’t know how it was going to play out. She’s now in remission and is happy and healthy as a clam, but I have no doubt that prayer/good thoughts/positive attitudes, whatever you are into (in addition to some kickass science) is/are the reason(s) she is still on this planet.

So before you go paint the town red, shoot some positive vibes Brandy’s way, okay?

You can follow Brandy (@brandyismagic) or check out her blog:

  • Sydney,

    Thanks for re-posting this. I hadn't read Brandy's blog before, but it really is a gem, and I'm so sorry that I had to discover it this way, and yet I'm very glad I did.

    It's amazing the support and community that blogging can provide. It's amazing, too, what power positive thinking really does have, as you said you've experienced as well. Let's keep rocking those good vibes, let's keep supporting each other, let's keep those smiles and laughs coming.

    Wishing Brandy and her loved one well, and wishing you a great new year, Sydney.
  • brandyismagic
    As a girl who always have roughly 5,000 words in her head and rolling out of her mouth- I'm at a loss to express how much the support of everyone has meant to me. This definitely has caused me take pause and reflect on just how much this community means to me. So, so thankful.
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