Comments on: No Tears: Unfiltered. http://sydneyowen.com/2009/12/04/no-tears-unfiltered/ a raw take on my life as it is: unpredictable, frightening and wildly exciting. Fri, 30 Jul 2010 22:27:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Leslie_Forman http://sydneyowen.com/2009/12/04/no-tears-unfiltered/comment-page-1/#comment-2632 Leslie_Forman Tue, 08 Dec 2009 20:24:22 +0000 http://sydneyowen.com/?p=819#comment-2632 The other day, a close friend said to me, "You've got to leave here. You're not happy. Happy people don't cry." I couldn't find the words to disagree with him directly right at that moment but those words are still in my mind. <br><br>I disagree. I don't think I'm someone who cries all the time, but at moments of accumulated frustration, the tears flow. Not so much from sadness or sentiment, mostly frustration accumulated from many sources. <br><br>In the book Stumbling Upon Happiness, Daniel Gilbert writes that people are more likely to forgive their partners for infidelity than leaving dirty dishes in the sink. I think this type of contradictory statement could also be applied to tears. The big events and transitions somehow don't faze me too much, but the little ones can really pack a punch. <br><br>P.S. Your dad leaves amazing comments! The other day, a close friend said to me, “You've got to leave here. You're not happy. Happy people don't cry.” I couldn't find the words to disagree with him directly right at that moment but those words are still in my mind.

I disagree. I don't think I'm someone who cries all the time, but at moments of accumulated frustration, the tears flow. Not so much from sadness or sentiment, mostly frustration accumulated from many sources.

In the book Stumbling Upon Happiness, Daniel Gilbert writes that people are more likely to forgive their partners for infidelity than leaving dirty dishes in the sink. I think this type of contradictory statement could also be applied to tears. The big events and transitions somehow don't faze me too much, but the little ones can really pack a punch.

P.S. Your dad leaves amazing comments!

]]> By: Leslie_Forman http://sydneyowen.com/2009/12/04/no-tears-unfiltered/comment-page-1/#comment-2456 Leslie_Forman Tue, 08 Dec 2009 13:24:22 +0000 http://sydneyowen.com/?p=819#comment-2456 The other day, a close friend said to me, "You've got to leave here. You're not happy. Happy people don't cry." I couldn't find the words to disagree with him directly right at that moment but those words are still in my mind. <br><br>I disagree. I don't think I'm someone who cries all the time, but at moments of accumulated frustration, the tears flow. Not so much from sadness or sentiment, mostly frustration accumulated from many sources. <br><br>In the book Stumbling Upon Happiness, Daniel Gilbert writes that people are more likely to forgive their partners for infidelity than leaving dirty dishes in the sink. I think this type of contradictory statement could also be applied to tears. The big events and transitions somehow don't faze me too much, but the little ones can really pack a punch. <br><br>P.S. Your dad leaves amazing comments! The other day, a close friend said to me, “You've got to leave here. You're not happy. Happy people don't cry.” I couldn't find the words to disagree with him directly right at that moment but those words are still in my mind.

I disagree. I don't think I'm someone who cries all the time, but at moments of accumulated frustration, the tears flow. Not so much from sadness or sentiment, mostly frustration accumulated from many sources.

In the book Stumbling Upon Happiness, Daniel Gilbert writes that people are more likely to forgive their partners for infidelity than leaving dirty dishes in the sink. I think this type of contradictory statement could also be applied to tears. The big events and transitions somehow don't faze me too much, but the little ones can really pack a punch.

P.S. Your dad leaves amazing comments!

]]> By: Robin_Luymes http://sydneyowen.com/2009/12/04/no-tears-unfiltered/comment-page-1/#comment-2450 Robin_Luymes Mon, 07 Dec 2009 18:47:06 +0000 http://sydneyowen.com/?p=819#comment-2450 Great post Sydney. I love how willing you are to share what might be deeply personal emotions for others. Here's *my* crying dilemma. I'm middle aged and cry at movies like "Bridge to Terabithia" while my kids do not. Am I regressing? I won't be a movie spoiler, but I got all teary eyed! I chalk it up to having empathy for others' plights which, I think, is a good trait to have in public relations. But I rarely cry about my own situations... I'll leave that to others! Great post Sydney. I love how willing you are to share what might be deeply personal emotions for others. Here's *my* crying dilemma. I'm middle aged and cry at movies like “Bridge to Terabithia” while my kids do not. Am I regressing? I won't be a movie spoiler, but I got all teary eyed! I chalk it up to having empathy for others' plights which, I think, is a good trait to have in public relations. But I rarely cry about my own situations… I'll leave that to others!

]]> By: manishfusion http://sydneyowen.com/2009/12/04/no-tears-unfiltered/comment-page-1/#comment-2446 manishfusion Mon, 07 Dec 2009 03:23:10 +0000 http://sydneyowen.com/?p=819#comment-2446 I Think this happens many people's life and like as you many human's i know.<br><a href="http://www.caravanmarket.com.au" rel="dofollow" rel="nofollow">caravans</a>--caravans I Think this happens many people's life and like as you many human's i know.
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]]> By: mike siete cinco http://sydneyowen.com/2009/12/04/no-tears-unfiltered/comment-page-1/#comment-2443 mike siete cinco Sat, 05 Dec 2009 20:52:38 +0000 http://sydneyowen.com/?p=819#comment-2443 I agree with your pops, don't ever become an adult. You can kick ass, be responsible, take on the world and still remain child-like...you can even cry when feel like it. And when you don't want to cry , you don't have to. I agree with your pops, don't ever become an adult. You can kick ass, be responsible, take on the world and still remain child-like…you can even cry when feel like it. And when you don't want to cry , you don't have to.

]]> By: nicoleantoinette http://sydneyowen.com/2009/12/04/no-tears-unfiltered/comment-page-1/#comment-2441 nicoleantoinette Sat, 05 Dec 2009 03:12:08 +0000 http://sydneyowen.com/?p=819#comment-2441 I think that you're either a person who cries or you're not. I am a Person Who Cries. At commercials. And YouTube videos. And really touching blog posts.<br><br>Don't get me started on airport trips in long distance relationships. Gah. THE HORROR. I think that you're either a person who cries or you're not. I am a Person Who Cries. At commercials. And YouTube videos. And really touching blog posts.

Don't get me started on airport trips in long distance relationships. Gah. THE HORROR.

]]> By: Jamie Favreau http://sydneyowen.com/2009/12/04/no-tears-unfiltered/comment-page-1/#comment-2440 Jamie Favreau Fri, 04 Dec 2009 21:25:48 +0000 http://sydneyowen.com/?p=819#comment-2440 I think it just means you are accustomed to your life and even though you miss your family you have adopted a new one. I am not sure how I am going to feel if I move to Chicago. I guess this all depends on how the interview goes. I know to get where I want to be in my career a change is definitely needed. <br><br>You are at a great stage in your career and you should embrace it. People move but then they come back. The safety blanket per say is changed but they will be there for you when you need them. Embrace it. I think it just means you are accustomed to your life and even though you miss your family you have adopted a new one. I am not sure how I am going to feel if I move to Chicago. I guess this all depends on how the interview goes. I know to get where I want to be in my career a change is definitely needed.

You are at a great stage in your career and you should embrace it. People move but then they come back. The safety blanket per say is changed but they will be there for you when you need them. Embrace it.

]]> By: seanathompson http://sydneyowen.com/2009/12/04/no-tears-unfiltered/comment-page-1/#comment-2437 seanathompson Fri, 04 Dec 2009 19:40:01 +0000 http://sydneyowen.com/?p=819#comment-2437 Crying is a funny thing. I wouldn't necessarily make to much out of the fact that you didn't cry when leaving home most recently, but it probably is a sign that you're becoming more accustomed to living in Chicago.<br><br>I was utterly sure that I would cry in the aftermath of completing my first marathon in Oct. I just had a feeling I would break down at the finish line overcome with joy after all the hard work I had put in during training. I nearly lost it while RUNNING still just thinking about crossing the finish line. But when I did finish, there were no tears. I hope it doesn't mean that I didn't appreciate the feat as much as I should have. Or maybe you're dad is right about the dehydration thing... Crying is a funny thing. I wouldn't necessarily make to much out of the fact that you didn't cry when leaving home most recently, but it probably is a sign that you're becoming more accustomed to living in Chicago.

I was utterly sure that I would cry in the aftermath of completing my first marathon in Oct. I just had a feeling I would break down at the finish line overcome with joy after all the hard work I had put in during training. I nearly lost it while RUNNING still just thinking about crossing the finish line. But when I did finish, there were no tears. I hope it doesn't mean that I didn't appreciate the feat as much as I should have. Or maybe you're dad is right about the dehydration thing…

]]> By: Tim Jahn http://sydneyowen.com/2009/12/04/no-tears-unfiltered/comment-page-1/#comment-2436 Tim Jahn Fri, 04 Dec 2009 17:34:39 +0000 http://sydneyowen.com/?p=819#comment-2436 Best. Comment. Ever. Best. Comment. Ever.

]]> By: DShan http://sydneyowen.com/2009/12/04/no-tears-unfiltered/comment-page-1/#comment-2435 DShan Fri, 04 Dec 2009 17:32:50 +0000 http://sydneyowen.com/?p=819#comment-2435 Tears are tears. Emotions are real, and you're in an interesting point in your life. Lots of change that seems to have more weight then the changes we experience while we grow up in whatever bubbles we grow up in. Those of us who were in bubbles, anyway.<br><br>College is killer because you wake up every day and you don't have a parent nearby.<br><br>Life after college is usually still sans-parent, but also sans the protective dorm and other hapless cohorts. People around you are doing stuff; all of sudden you're supposed to influence tomorrow.<br><br>But what do I know. I only cry if my mother is crying. It's like a faucet switch for me. Tears are tears. Emotions are real, and you're in an interesting point in your life. Lots of change that seems to have more weight then the changes we experience while we grow up in whatever bubbles we grow up in. Those of us who were in bubbles, anyway.

College is killer because you wake up every day and you don't have a parent nearby.

Life after college is usually still sans-parent, but also sans the protective dorm and other hapless cohorts. People around you are doing stuff; all of sudden you're supposed to influence tomorrow.

But what do I know. I only cry if my mother is crying. It's like a faucet switch for me.

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