May 18, 2009 | Posted in Uncategorized | By Sydney
Am I the only person who has been doing it on their own all the way through college? Seriously? I was browsing posts from my fellow Brazen bloggers and I stumbled upon this gem about what you should hear in a graduation speech (but probably won’t). This point is the one that got me a little riled up:
3. Rent. Food. Health insurance. Car insurance. Cell phone bills. College loans. Yeah, these are all going to be, wait-they-can’t-be-serious, more expensive than in you’re little dream world where you’re parents picked up the tab on one, two, or all. (Yes rent is every month and yes it’s half your Starbucks check).
I’m not riled up because of Paul’s post. I’m worked up because his post shed light on a subject I think I was a bit naive about. I’ve been paying everything except my health insurance since I graduated high school, and had assumed that most of the collegiate population was the same way. That is the ONLY thing my parents pay, and once I move to Chicago, I’m on my own for that. I paid my tuition, I paid for books, I paid my rent and my ridiculous car payment, I’ve been supporting myself since I was 19.
Not like my parents are jerks or anything, in fact, it’s quite the opposite. Because my parents didn’t have the means to pay for my college or hand me the world on a silver spoon, I’m more prepared for the world ahead. I know how to set up a budget and stick to it. I know how to save money (when there is money to save).
I was under the impression that more students were like me, working and going to school full time, paying their way through their undergraduate years. But if the quote above is something that you should hear at a graduation speech, is that suggesting that my college peers are being handed the world on a silver platter?
Even if your parents are paying for everything right now, what are you going to do after graduation when you’re suddenly faced with hundreds of dollars of monthly responsibilities? I have two guesses. You could end up like some of the people I work with at the restaurant, who had everything handed to them while they were in college, and now they’re one, two, three years graduated and yet to leave the restaurant and do something that utilizes their degree. They’re living shift by shift because they don’t know how to set up a budget or save money. Or perhaps you’ll be the 30 year old living with your parents because you don’t know how to support yourself.
Maybe I’m biased because I have been providing for myself since I graduated, but shame on the parents that are giving their kids everything and not teaching them what the real world is like. It’s because of your actions that Gen-Y is accosted with this stereotype of feeling entitled to everything. Of course they do! The generations before us have been feeding the egos of these kids and haven’t attempted to teach them life skills in the process.
I think in all reality, most of us are probably a balance of the two extremes. But for those of you who don’t have a cent of responsibility now, you better get ready for life after graduation, because like Paul said, it’s not like your dream world.
How was your education funded? If your parents have been paying for everything, are you ready for the day they cut you off? If you have paid your own way, what were some of the ways you did?
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